Our Inner Child!
Basically our Inner Child is our subconscious, it has millions upon millions of memories playing, and our inner child is responsible for helping us breath automatically. Dr. Hew Len suggests that if we love, and interact with our inner child, we can get it to clean for us when we aren’t cleaning. You can get your child to clean when you aren’t cleaning, and if your child does this automatically, you won’t get stuck in memories, even when you forget to clean!
Basically, you know that inner voice you hear in your head, the one with negative thoughts, or positive thoughts, that’s your inner child. You need to acknowledge it and love it.
A sample of what you might say to your inner child is:
Your inner child wants to help you clean, but might not understand what you want from it. By talking and interacting with your inner child, you are helping it, to understand what you want. Remember you need to be clear and gentle when talking to your inner child.
Dr. Hew Len says before he starts his day, every morning he sits on the floor and has a discussion with his inner child. It’s important to have your inner child know what you expect and to help you clean. Explain ho’oponopono to your subconscious. Remember to love and care for your inner child.
Ho’oponopono and Our Inner Child — Authentic Relationship, Authentic Love
In Ho’oponopono, the Inner Child is the part of us containing all the unconscious memories which can surface as problems like illness, miscommunication, money issues, relationship discord, etc. The Inner Child also runs our bodies — and needs care from the mothering part of us, the Uhane.
If we don’t clean, our Inner Child continues to suffer. If we choose to clean, it can let the painful memories go. It does require daily practice, though. Once you realize this part of you has been abused and neglected throughout time, you develop an attitude of care and compassion towards it — genuine love.
As a doctor, I think this models good self-care, too. There are processes for preparing the Child to go out into the world, for stocking a bag of supplies he/she may need, helping him/her to feel safe, giving gentle affection, and more. This is very different from running mindlessly through life, not considering what we may need as simple humans.
Through our behavior and choices in each moment, we’re showing our Inner Child how we approach life and its events: through cleaning, rather than getting embroiled and inflamed in them. All that stuff comes from memories or data we hold inside anyway. Best to ask Divinity’s help in transmuting and letting them go! Eventually, the Child learns from us, and wants to do this too. It pleasures in joining in.
Dr. Hew Len says the relationship with our Unihipili is the most important relationship we’ll ever have.
Our Inner Child – Healing Our Unloved Self – Could Our Inner Child Feel Unloved?
Our inner child represents us between the ages of birth to adolescence. The inner child’s psychological nature consists of childhood negative and positive experiences, emotions, and self-worth. Besides being the result of our childhoods, this accumulation passes down through the generations of our family. Our inner child resembles a boy or girl.
One aspect of our inner child may feel unloved, unrecognized, and fearful in other words, the neglected or abandoned child. This child craves nurturing and unconditional love. This child neither sees nor feels the light. Instead, it feels trapped, sad, and lonely inside of a dark, non-nurturing world. This feeling of lack of love passes down through our family bloodline. If we heal it in ourselves the next generation no longer inherits the lack of love. Healing our inner child heals the inner child of our children and our children’s children.
If ignored, our child hides in a corner of our psyche until something triggers his or her pain. Their emotional reaction can sabotage our success if the child’s intent differs from our conscious intent.
Our inner child has a whole body of emotions. If wounded and powerless, our inner child searches outside ourselves for love and esteem. When we experience an emotional reaction or have our “buttons” pushed by a situation or person, this is the inner child’s response to old unhealed emotional wounds.
Our inner child feels the rage, anger, hurt, sadness, or hopelessness. Sometimes it just wants to give up and die.
The first three energy centers – chakras – below our abdomen carry a great deal of the pain of the inner child. Our lower chakras relate to survival, power, and sexual needs. These chakras carry our fears, anxieties, and sorrow, which make up the life of an unloved child. An inner child in pain can only reach out for the love they yearn for with conditions attached to that love which in their experience may mean abuse, control, or power. I believe much of the violence, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse results from the wounded inner child acting out in the adult.
Emotional Health – The Wounded Inner Child, Does it Run Your Life?
Our inner child contains all our positive and negative emotional patterns. He or she lives in our psyche as the little child we once were. He or she carries the wounds of past trauma. A clue that our inner child runs our lives emerges in the patterns of drama and trauma, which keep reappearing repeatedly in our adult lives. Another clue shows itself if we keep retelling the same story of suffering to others.
Our inner child connects to our emotions. I numbed and avoided my emotions for two-thirds of my life. I learned to embrace my inner child. By staying present with the feelings, they began to transform on their own and a peace would fill me. I do this more and more now. I choose to take charge rather than allowing my inner child to sit in the driver’s seat of the emotional train. When our inner child heals, we heal.
If you choose to heal your inner child, Evelyn Lim describes seven steps:
Holes In Your Soul – Loving Your Inner Child
So many of us are damaged. We grew up in abusive, angry homes based on fear. The parents we had barely knew how to be themselves with all of their trauma and drama. These parents were so broken down that they had no idea how to be a parent. How to love a child looking up into their eyes filled with love. And what they did is they allowed their pain to affect their behavior. Instead a love, they provided fear. Instead of support, they tried to break us down. For some of us the abuse was emotional, it cut deep into our spirit, it’s quashed our hope, our will to live. For others the abuse was physical and we still carry the scars around us even today.
And as we grew up we knew that there were holes in our souls. We lacked something that other people seem to have. Sometimes it made us sad. Sometimes it made us angry. We looked at other families, longing, wishing we could be like them. That maybe if we changed somehow, someway we could have that. If we tried hard enough we might with all of our hope the worthy of love. Because otherwise why are we in such pain. There are times when the loneliness is overwhelming. And we crawl in to our shells of loneliness against the world around us.
We are racked with feelings of unworthiness. To be unworthy of love or even sometimes just the kindness of strangers. It is a heavy burden that we carry around us this invisible weight that started the moment we were born. There is a part of us that believes we deserve the pain that we are in. Because otherwise why would our parents abused us so? Sometimes we wish we could’ve been better as children. Because maybe if we were better, if we tried harder, if we knew all the answers, we would have had a happier life.
We need to take baby steps. Baby steps into a new us. Baby steps that will turn into giant leaps. A new us that maybe is worthy of love. Maybe worthy of happiness. To do this we need to start with a basic understanding of the child we were was absolutely not responsible for the pain of our parents. That every child is born filled with love and hope. And that there is no reason, no excuse for the pain that we suffered as a child. Bottom line: It Was Not Our Fault! Bottom line we did nothing wrong. As adults we kind of understand that but, the inner child in us does not.
We need to go inside and touch the inner child. Reclaim the spark of that hope that we were all born with. That knows on a bone deep level that we deserve love. Is our right. Is our destiny. Is our contract with life. So as we take baby steps to honor the child. We start by finding a quiet place away from distractions. Way from the chaos of our life around us. We need to sit. We need to go inside to find the little child inside us. If there is a picture of a small little you this will help.
We need to go inside, and find that child. Even if we are just pretending. Even if it’s just our imagination. It does not matter. As we sit with this helpless little us, we need to open up our hearts and love this inner child. We need to let our child know that he/she made it. That’s the child survived. We need to understand that there is a void that needs to be filled with our love. We need to cry with it. We need to laugh with it. And that every day as we take 4 or 5 minutes honoring, loving our inner child we are filling up that void with love, compassion, understanding, and hope.
As we honor our inner child, we honoring ourselves. As we love our inner child, we are developing love for ourselves. And as we give hope of a better future to our inner child, we are giving a better future for ourselves.